If you look up the 2x2s–the cult I was raised in–you’ll see a reference to all kinds of rules, although the rules varied from place to place, region to region. But there were most definitely rules. Rules replaced compassion and common sense. Rules were there to help you settle things without needing to feel or think.
It can be helpful to devise new rules for oneself as a part of the healing process. These are mine.
1) Don’t hurt people (or animals). Especially not on purpose or when you can help it.
2) Try your best.
3) Know when to let go.
4) Know when to quit.
6) Stay in touch.
7) Speak up. But use “the three gates.” (Is it necessary? Is it kind? Is it true?)
8) Take care.
You’ll notice some contradictions. That’s because there’s a time and place for everything.
What are your rules?